a reflection on Sarah’s disregard for social norms

I’ve decided to start 2014 looking back, doing some reflecting and preparing for 2014.

This week we’re looking at some old post with some comments and thoughts looking back at them. To start the most viewed post of 2014 (thoughts and comments in red). The top post of 2014 was about my wife and the fantastic way she lives.

I really like this story. If you know Sarah it’s honest to who she is. She isn’t much of one for talking about doing something she just does it. She doesn’t spend much time talking about a life of compassion, she just steps out and does it. She just puts herself in situations to connect. We’ve got to young boys and it would be easy to stay home but instead she goes out to groups, meets people and then integrates them into her life.

Because she is about people. Connecting and loving people. This is just one story of her doing it.

social norms and Sarah’s clear disregard for them

So I’m sitting in church minding my own business.

I’m drinking my coffee, arguing with God about singing songs (we do that every week. It’s like our thing. I’m a little stubborn) and then Sarah has to go and make it all awkward.

Sarah makes all kinds of situations awkward. Almost always good but even today I still hate every time she does it. It’s kind of like exercise. The idea and the buildup is bad but I always feel good after it’s done. Sarah forcing us into awkward situations often ends up the same.

We sit down and it’s time to meet who’s around you, but that’s not what people actually do. You shake hands, say hello, sit down and that’s it. But not my Sarah.


“Hi, are you guys new? You looked kinda lost when you came in.”

“ummmm…. yeah, it’s our first time.”

“oh great! How did you hear about the meeting house?”

“ohh…. well we’ve been listening to the podcast for a while.”

“That’s so good. Bruxy is a great teacher. I’m Sarah.”

She just jumps right in!!!!!

No sense of social norms, or awareness for how awkward her talking over to me to perfect strangers is.


I didn’t note this the first time through but this isn’t hard to do in the complicated sense. Sarah just talked to the person beside her. But how few of us do that? We keep our networks small and our lives closed then wonder why we don’t see God doing anything cool.

We haven’t placed ourselves in a space where God can do something cool. God can only do so much if we don’t open our entire life to Him and His push to step out. Wondering why God isn’t radically changing your life as you wait in your little Christian bubble is like wondering why sitting in the change room of a gym hasn’t caused you to lose any weight. You need to go out and do something, put in some effort and be stretched. Hear and act on the call that every Christian has. Go and be in relationships with people of all types (read: not just Christians). Love them so they can see the loves that you have been shown.

And that’s part of why I love her so much.

She just does. Just powers through and connects.

I’ve been trying to live a life of compassion for a little while now and it’s still awkward. It’s still hard to talk to people I don’t know. That could have gone awful. It’s scary to put yourself out there.

I bring it up to encourage you. If you’re like me and this stuff makes you feel awkward, we’re in the same anxiety inducing boat. And maybe like me you’ve been at this a while and you’re still awkward about it.

Cool, we can talk about it together. We’re in the same place.

It may never go away, but Sarah displayed what it’s supposed to be. It’s people putting themselves out there to connect and bring others into community.

Our sometimes awkward, anxiety filled community.



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