Christians can be…… harsh.
We can be brutal, hostile, full of venom and hate actually. And no I don’t think that’s a little harsh.
I’m careful to use the word we here. I’m right in the thick of this. Trust me, I see my own plank.
But how? Why can’t we see what we’re doing? How do we get dragged into, or perhaps down to, this type of posture?
Well, we speak the truth and love and sometimes love is harsh. Sometimes we need tough love. Sometimes people need a dose of reality to learn, change, grow, etc.
At least that’s the narrative.
There’s a story that comes to mind when I think of “speaking the truth in love.” A proof text to share why the shaming, blaming, calling out and judgment we are setting upon someone is ok. “….go and sin no more.”
It’s the story of a woman caught in adultery.
The sad reality I’m seeing is that while we want to be Jesus, full of grace and hope, restoring and offering a life of depth and beauty that isn’t’ found elsewhere, we often aren’t. Sure sometimes we’re the woman, our shame for the world to see, naked and afraid of what this humiliation will mean.
All too often though, we’re the Pharisees. But we’ll get to that in a minute. Continue reading