a Christ like church

Prepare to be surprised.

I love church.

I know, you can see it in all my writings can’t you? It’s the obvious and overwhelming theme of all I write.

But I do, I really and truly love it. While most people will, and should, read the above sentence as sarcasm, with the utmost seriousness, my love of church is one of the driving factors behind why I write. It actually is an overwhelming underlying theme of my writing.

And from time to time I think it’s good to step back and remind people of that. The same thing happens in my work. I work supporting and building community. There are a lot of parallels to church.

And if you work with my for any length of time you’d get the sense I find it all awful. People suck, they make everything hard, the system is broken, and it all just seems kind of hopeless. From time to time I forget that not everyone sees things how I do. Not everyone understands the starting point. Not everyone is using the same lens as me.

Community is my passion. I want it in my life and in the lives of the people I work with so bad I will do anything I can to breakdown, change, or better the things that hold it back. And so I work really hard identifying the barriers, struggling through them, trying to find solutions and ways to make community better, easier, more inclusive. Continue reading

when is an either or answer simply yes?

I wrote that

“Well, we speak the truth and love and sometimes love is harsh. Sometimes we need tough love. Sometimes people need a dose of reality to learn, change, grow, etc.”

And it does sound like it makes sense. We can see when someone might need it. We can talk around it.

Why doesn’t it work?

Why when it seems so clear and so obvious doesn’t it work?

I think it’s the posture of the heart. This approach or starting point comes from anger, or pride, or judgement. It doesn’t’ come from love. This isn’t grace, we’re not in the mess grieving with the person. We are out of it and seeing how much we know how wrong they are.

Does it mean we can’t be frank or direct? No, of course not.

But a frank and direct comment in love is really different than a dose of reality. And it comes from relationship. It comes with history and back story and an understanding built over time. There is nuance and grace. Not a message on twitter or a comment on Facebook to a stranger who needs to see how wrong they are. Continue reading