Lent started this week.
Lent leads to two obvious questions in a lot of Christian circles.
“Are you doing lent?”
“What are you lenting?”
But I often struggle with talking about it. This is more of an internal struggle than an external one because I love to hear myself talk. To an extent it’s the same reason I struggle with a lot of social media.
My mother’s voice runs through my head every time I think about posting anything. The question of “to what end?”
I can’t escape it.
That said, my mom and I have never talked about Facebook or Twitter with any real depth. We do however talk about work and life and often the idea of “to what end” comes up. I try to consider it with any important decisions, but Twitter and Facebook aren’t really important so why is it creeping in here?
It creeps in I suppose because lent is important. Perhaps more to the point who I am, my actions and the way I share myself is important.
And what does my online sharing say about me?
What does it say about what I value?
To what end am I posting _______?
Is it to encourage people, is it to draw them into community, is it to love them…
Or am I just saying look at me, look how smart I am, look how much I care, look what I’m doing, aren’t I great? Why does everyone know that I am lenting ______ and that it’s such struggle? Why do I make sure people see all the volunteering I’m doing and all the people I’m meeting?
We’ll most of you have come here through Facebook, so I’m clearly not opposed to Facebook entirely.
I just wonder if we should be more critical of what we post, why we post it, and what it says about us.
Are we commenting to be encouraging, to build community, to support others or because everyone else is and we want the world to know we care to. I worry that the ease with which we can say happy birthday, I’m sorry for your loss, excited for you, etc takes away from our desire to really engage. We miss being in the moment, in the messiness, in each other’s lives as much as we once were.
I think this is where community becomes so central.
Community is where we can go and share because our community knows us. They know why we’re doing what we’re doing. They can call us out when we’re being boastful and showy. They know our intentions and our hearts. They want this type of encouragement and challenge, because we know them relationally. We can lean on them and they will support us, because sometimes we need more than a few likes to get by. Sometimes we need someone to hold our hands, wipe our tears and listen as it all falls apart.
I worry that if we sat and reflected we’d find we pose/share/comment so others see how caring, smart, funny we are rather than to love. That when the option is presented we’d rather comment on a post then send a message, make a call, walk to their house because if we were being honest, part of why we’re doing it is so people know we’re doing it.
It’s not everyone, nor is it always, but if we never think “to what end” it might be happening more than we think. I know it does for me.