it’s comming

Christmas is coming.

All the people.

All the family.

All the stress.

All the love.

All the loss.

All the memories.

All the travel.

All the time.

All the tension.

All the fun.

All the awkwardness.

All the stories.

Memories can be a tiring business.

Love is a tiring business.

People are a tiring business.

Christmas can be a tiring business.

Compassion is a very tiring business.

Get some rest…it’s coming.

relationship is the answer

I probably watch too much TV.

I do it because for me the world just kind of goes away. It’s a similar expense when I play video games. It’s just a space where for a few minutes my mind stops.

I don’t know if you’re like me at all but I really can’t stop my mind from thinking.

At home church while I drank coffee and talked about my week and what was going on in everyone else’s life I was still thinking about how our perspective of heaven impacts our daily life.

Do you do this? Does your mind just kinda go?

That’s why I love TV and video games. My mind stops.

I spoke with one of the guys at home church about how there is always something running in the back of my mind.

This all got me thinking back to a tough time in my life.

I’ve mentioned my father before, but I don’t know if I’ve mentioned that he passed away almost 3 years ago. It was a really hard time for me and I’ll share more about how that’s impacted me in the future.

But one major impact was that since I can’t shut my brain down I couldn’t stop thinking about it. So when he did pass away I started to think back to what I had done in the past.

It was my second year of university. I was sitting in class when my phone rang. I silenced it and continued to pay attention. After class as I walked out of the building and listened to a voicemail form my dad “hi Philip, we heard from the doctor. It’s not good. You should come home.” His voice was breaking as he fought back tears.

I knew what it meant. The cancer was back.

I meet my family in my dad’s office to hear the news face to face. I remember walking home with my brothers and thinking “I don’t think I can handle this”.

So like the mature adults we were we sat down and start playing video games. We played for hours.

It’s what I needed in the moment. I needed my mind to stop.

I didn’t need to think about how the world was changing and how my life was going to shift again.

I didn’t know what to say to my brothers and they didn’t know what to say to me but we knew we needed a moment.

What I didn’t need was someone explaining why it was happening or telling me it was all going to be ok. I didn’t need to be assured that God was in control what I needed was relationship and that day it was relationship with my brothers.

When we’re in relationship we don’t need all the answers. We don’t have to fix it all. We don’t have to have the perfect words or wise counsel.

When someone’s life is shaken to the core the way it is when you lose a job or are being forced to face death they often don’t need answers.

Sometimes all we need to do is be present. We need to bring normalcy.

Sometimes all we need to do is watch some TV or drink some coffee with someone. We need to sit and affirm that we are there with them in the darkness and that despite all the change that’s coming your relationship is still there, like it always was.

Football Mondays, late night video games, or walking the dogs together are still going to happen.

A lot of times people don’t need answers, what they need is honest and real relationship.